A few weeks ago, I spoke to a journalist from The Washington Post about retirement and relationships.
What followed was a conversation that became much more personal than I expected.
The article explores one of the questions that sits at the heart of so much of my work:
What happens when two people arrive at retirement with very different ideas about what comes next?
For many years, I assumed retirement would simply mean more time to enjoy the life my husband and I had already built together. More travel. More weekends away. More freedom.
Instead, retirement revealed something we had never fully discussed.
We had very different visions of the future.
As I told the journalist:
“I remember saying, ‘Is this it for the rest of my life?’”
Looking back now, I can see that retirement is rarely just a financial transition.
It is an identity transition.
A relationship transition.
A transition in how we spend our time, where we find meaning, and who we are becoming.
The questions that emerged from that period eventually led me to undertake a professional doctorate exploring meaning in later life, write books on ageing, and develop the ideas that now sit at the centre of ThriveSpan and Ageing Reimagined.
One thing I have learned is that preparing for later life requires more than pension planning.
It requires conversations.
- What excites you now?
- What gives you purpose?
- How do you want to spend the next chapter of your life?
They are questions I wish we had explored more deeply before retirement arrived.
I’m grateful to Jenna Ryu and The Washington Post for highlighting a topic that deserves far more attention.
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