Why I’m Not Choosing to Grow Old Disgracefully
There’s a popular invitation in some circles to grow old disgracefully.A kind of rallying cry to rebel, to misbehave, to throw off restraint in the name of freedom and fun. I understand why it appeals.For many, it’s a counter to ageism, a refusal to fade quietly.But it isn’t my path. At this stage of life, […]
A Day in Hospital
Two weeks ago I spent a day in hospital having a lentigo maligna removed, a sun-damaged patch caught just before it could turn into skin cancer. Not a mole, though several people assumed it was. Just one of the quiet things that can appear on our skin as we age, the legacy of years spent […]
A Small Kindness at McDonald’s
I popped to the shops today and found myself opposite McDonald’s. I have a quiet fondness for a Filet-O-Fish, though I hardly ever have one, years rather than months. So I went in. I tried to use the ordering machine, but everything was geared towards meals, not a single sandwich. A member of staff noticed […]
In the Quiet Between Sentences: Reflections on Flesh
I finished Flesh this weekend. It’s just won the Booker Prize. What struck me wasn’t the subject matter so much as the way the book captures the interior life, the things we only understand with distance, the conversations that reveal more than the characters realise, and the moments that surface only when we slow down […]
When Fawning Becomes a Way of Life: Why I’m Finally Stepping Into Myself
There comes a point, often in our 60s, when we start seeing our past selves with a kind of gentle clarity. Not with criticism, but with recognition. We notice the patterns we carried through life. The adaptations that once kept us safe. The ways we softened ourselves to maintain harmony or connection. And sometimes we […]
Reflection on watching Die, My Love
I saw Die, My Love this week, a film about a woman whose life shifts after becoming a mother. She has moved somewhere new, with the intention of writing, of continuing the version of herself she had always imagined she was. And then the baby arrives, and her sense of self begins to unravel. The […]
Summer of Shifts
Summer of Shifts A Companion to Stepping Back Without Losing Yourself Some seasons change everything. Summer of Shifts traces one of mine: a summer of endings, rediscovery, and renewal. 📘 Free to download; this companion guide offers a glimpse into the lived experience behind Stepping Back Without Losing Yourself, exploring what it really feels like […]
Stepping Back Without Losing Yourself
Walking Gently Into What Matters Now After decades of striving, many of us reach a quiet turning point. We’ve achieved much, yet something inside whispers that it’s time for a different rhythm, one shaped less by pressure and more by presence. Stepping Back Without Losing Yourself is a deeply personal guide about what happens when […]
When Music Finds You Later in Life
In the wood, I’ve been listening to the sound of falling leaves, acorns landing with soft thuds, the sharp bark of deer, birds calling through the trees, and the low rustle of wind through branches. These are the sounds that usually fill my days there. But every so often, I’ve stepped back into the world […]
Finding Purpose in What Hurts
I hadn’t planned to see I Swear. A film about Tourette’s, full of shouting and swearing? I hesitated. But I watched the trailer, funny, tender, clearly more than a simple “feel-good” story, and sensed there was something deeper. So I booked a seat. It turned out to be one of those rare films that stay […]