Do people tell you that you are remarkable, kind, inspirational…
Too often we don’t listen to these words, we filter them out and have our antenna tuned to the negative and critical.
I don’t think I’ve been telling you enough, that you are amazing and there is never going to be another person just like you.
I want you to be as amazing and great as you want to be. This doesn’t mean that you should be shooting for the unobtainable. Being good enough is perfect, and takes away so much pressure from thinking that you must be number one.
We should not compare ourselves to others – people will always be smarter, fitter, more stylish (or quirky) than us. What’s more important is to look at the changes we make within ourselves.
… and I think I’ve been acting a bit too conventional, and that’s not the true me. It takes speakers like Brene Brown discussing vulnerability to remind me of being true to me and my values.
Brene said that most of us put our armour on when we get up. It’s like putting on spanx, hard to take off. So, we get locked inside the person we think we should be.
Does that ring true to you? Are you trying to fit in with a job that isn’t right for you?
Or with people where the true you is submerged as you try to be a perfect spouse or hide your creativity through trying to be uber organised?
My company is Amazing People, and I chose this name for a reason. I want to help the people whose lives I touch to feel they are amazing, to live amazing lives, and (with a blush!) I want you to think that the people I work with, and me, are amazing too!
I set up a microsite: The50PlusCoach aimed at inspiring people aged, 50, 60, 70 and beyond to live a life they love and I’m having fun, it’s focused and I’d love you to visit.
This post is inspired by the World Domination Summit
I spent the weekend (July 2012) at an event for people who want to be remarkable and live unconventional lives. It’s led by Chris Guillebeau, called the World Domination Summit and held in Portland, Oregon.
People get a bit confused about this conference, the focus of the event is ‘living a remarkable life in a conventional world’ and one way that Chris described this was that we are about community, adventure and service.
1000 people attended from all ages and from 24 countries, I thought travelling 5448 miles was a long way, but others travelled from Asia, Australia etc.
It left me brimming with thoughts and ideas and still on a high from so many experiences. There were many people who inspired me. Not just the famous such as Chris Guillebeau, Chris Brogan and Danielle la Porte but the many other people I met such as Oscia Wilson, Trevor Lohrbeer, Stacey Marolf and Indrani Goradia and so many more.
As with all conferences there were main events and workshops but this was an event like no other with masses of additional options, from swimming across the river to going on a chocolate tour. I had breakfast with 8 baby boomers set up by Scott Madden, went on a photo walk and saw the city through a lens, had lunch from the Portland street carts and met up for drinks.
Then there was a lunch with lawyers, and those who want to hang out with lawyers (many of my clients are unhappy lawyers), a networking for introvert’s event (!) and a beer tour, then the afterparty including Bollywood dancing! (and many more I didn’t choose to do as I also wanted some quiet time too). I was thinking of suggesting similar to more formal conferences I attend, but then … would I want to go to a traditional event anymore? I want to be inspired and challenged and meet new people who I want to stay connected with and I got plenty of these.
I think often the best way to expand our thinking and to grow and develop is to do something that isn’t a conventional learning event, least ways that’s my take on development. I’ve grown so much more through this event than attending a career coaches or psychologists conference.
This article first appeared on the Amazing People website